to the people not understanding what happened to Dan and Blair. [this] is an essay that i wrote after 5x20. At the height of Dan and Blair’s glory because, I as a chair fan wanted to understand what was happening on the show then. It’s a very very long detailed essay. This is before Blair ever…
The problem with this way of thinking, or rather, the biggest problem, is this implication that she doesnt feel vulnerable with Dan because he doesn’t have the capability to devastate her. Guess what? Anyone you love COULD devastate you. She doesn’t feel vulnerable with Dan because she trusts he wouldn’t. She knows Chuck would, and has, and that he has no problem doing so.
And this is somehow a good thing and it means real love. great love.
I love my husband more than anything, and you know what? He has never made me feel vulnerable. I do not doubt he could devastate me, but I know that he never would, because he never has. That is TRUST. That is me NOT being vulnerable because he is right for me and that is something I can believe in —never doubt— never feel vulnerable about. He makes me feel safe, and strong, he is my best friend and when we are together, it is is great. That is a great love, a real love, and as someone who not only disagrees but takes offense to the notion that I am in that kind of marriage because I wasn’t ‘brave’ enough to choose vulnerability, or the chance to be devastated, this fucking infuriates me.
Furthermore, I am not reading your analysis based on this: you say Dan doesn’t have her heart, Chuck does. You are basically calling Blair Waldorf a liar, and that I can’t abide. I can’t take what you say about a character to heart more than what the character said. And Blair said “I told Chuck he doesn’t have my heart anymore; I realized it belongs to someone else.”
Dan. It belongs to Dan. Blair said so herself, and don;t tell me she was confused because I could just as easily say she was confused in that finale when she told Chuck she was in love with him. That is a cop-out.
And yeah, she admitted she loves Dan in the finale, this isn’t brand new information (I don’t know which kind of love is better). Well guess what? We do. The better love is the one who makes you feel safe and strong. Not vulnerable and capable of being devastated (again). Not the one that makes you wonder what happiness is worth in the face of all of that. Happiness is everything. By your name, I would have thought youd get that … guess not.
her choosing Chuck made no sense. It was a last minute decision and likely has something to do with Safran leaving and Dair being his storyline. It didnt make any sense because it wasnt in line at ALL with the direction previous eps had been going, nor with what the EP was saying about said eps in interviews. It was not because there was any flaw in our way of thinking. The finale screams inconsistency and there are two possible reasons for that: 1. because it is purposefully misleading or 2:the writers abruptly decided to take it in a very different direction despite the consequences (to continuity) for whatever reason. Chair fans need to stop deluding themselves into thinking it was Chair the whole time and always glaringly inevitable. Because it wasn’t and imho, still isn’t. Nothing is concrete, the writers havent even written the whole of s6 yet, so … whatever.
ETA: omg just read some of it but you are not only a Chair fan but a total fucking marxist. Wow, you are just a plethora of misguided opinions aren’t you? Makes sense why you are stating everything so authoritatively despite it not only not being fact, but being entirely wrong.
LOLLLLL KBYE NOW
LOL, how dare anyone call Blair Waldorf a liar?! Because God knows she NEVER EVER DOES THAT.
Seriously though, she never said Dan had her heart- that’s an assumption that you’re making (my interpretation was also that she was “reclaiming” her heart from Chuck- i.e., her heart belonged to her). And I personally don’t think she was lying when she said that, I think she did break free of whatever “hold” Chuck had on her. But what she realized in the end was that, despite it all, she still loved him and she chose to love him. So she gave him her heart again, if you insist on using that terminology. She also wasn’t necessarily lying when she told Chuck “that doesn’t mean I’m in love with you, at least not right now (seriously, how was that not a big red flag for you?),not the way you deserve”- because at that point, she really wasn’t in any state to love him the way he deserved. But I do find it amusing that you say “I can’t take what you say about a character to heart more than what the character said”, when you clearly pick and choose which of Blair’s lines fit your agenda and then ignore all the things she says to contradict it… like declaring her love to Chuck over, and over, and over again. More on that later though.
If you chose to believe that she isn’t vulnerable to Dan because he’s such a super good guy that he would never hurt her… well, you’re welcome to believe that, but didn’t he publicly humiliate her on her wedding day (in a repeat of the way he publicly humiliated her at her birthday party)? And then lie to her face about it? And didn’t he stalk her because he didn’t trust her spending time with Chuck? And didn’t he just cheat on her with her best friend? The fact is, Dan is capable of doing shady things, Blair obviously realizes that because he’s done them to her before. So the reason she isn’t vulnerable with him isn’t that at all, but rather it’s same reason why she wasn’t vulnerable with Louis (who was also capable of doing some very shady things, as we saw). The reason is because she simply didn’t love either of them the way they loved her. The one-sided nature of both relationships was obvious from the very beginning- she loved that Louis loved her, she loved that Dan loved her, but she did very little to ever demonstrate that she actually loved them.
And it’s kind of hilarious to me that you’re able to make statements like “obviously Blair loves Dan” based on one vague remark she made to her mom about him vs Chuck, even though she explicitly never said it to him and barely looked like she cared when he said it to her- but then you dismiss or ignore her very explicit statements to Chuck, such as “I will always love you”, “I love you more and more every day”, etc, as if they don’t even matter, and then act like her decision at the end of the season doesn’t make sense- even though, in light of her actions and declarations in 5x10 and 5x13- both of which were key episodes- it makes absolutely perfect sense. In light of her assuming the worst of Chuck in 5x19 and being proven wrong, or saying she’d been completely lost for a long time in 5x21, it makes sense. In light of her obvious hesitation with making any sort of commitment to Dan in 5x22 or 5x23, and constantly ditching him to run off to Chuck, it makes sense. It only doesn’t make sense to you because those things weren’t what you wanted to see, so you ignored them.
So no, there was no last-minute change in the finale. The question was never “will Chuck and Blair reunite?” but rather “when”… Stephanie Savage made this quite clear in her most recent interview, and she’s been one of the executive producers from the very beginning. Just because Safran took the lead over the last year and a half doesn’t mean she ever stopped being in charge. Interestingly, Safran’s interview after the 100th said explicitly that Blair would stop going back and forth in 5x17… but that every decision can be quickly reversed, and everything would change again in the finale. Those were his exact words. Not to mention that every piece of leaked info we’ve gotten from the writers’ room and from people who work for the CW itself has been consistent with this- CB were always going to reunite. I’m sorry you didn’t see it coming, but that doesn’t mean it came out of nowhere. Chair fans have been predicting this outcome- in some cases with remarkable precision- for months and months now, and they’re (presumably) watching the same show you are. So don’t blame the writers because you didn’t get the story they were telling, when plenty of other people did.
Oh, and blah blah, your real marriage, blah, nobody cares. I’m married too, my husband is great, our relationship is great, and that bears absolutely no relevance to the dynamics of a fictional couple on a television series. GG does not represent, and is not supposed to represent, real life. It is a DRAMA. A real-life healthy relationship, by definition, lacks drama. Nobody’s interested in watching your marriage on their tv screens, trust me.